The shadow child will not write. And I cannot write while she is speaking to me. I tried to invoke her the other night, for the first time I invoked her by choice but, I had to stop because it hurt too much. The pain in my chest made it too difficult to breathe and I knew that if I chose to go any further it would be a very long dark night. I am not afraid of the work or the pain but, I have a job and self-induced fatigue is not a responsible decision.
I will do that work when I can do so without time constraints and I will borrow a recorder and try to invoke her to use her voice or I will give voice to the things that she says in those moments. It was not an unproductive evening however, I did gain some understanding and insights that I had not previously possessed.
She has a great many fears, many things that anger her and, a lot of irrational beliefs and I will be working with her about those feelings and those beliefs but, the insight I gained the other night was about her feelings concerning our body.
She is conflicted in her feelings about our body. She hates it because she sees it as the only thing that anyone wants from us and something that others can use to take from her, yet because she fears being invisible and abandoned she is afraid that no one will ever want it enough to see her and to stay with her..even love her and protect her. She does not truly trust me to do that, because I was not able to do so at the time.
She has very little control over what we decide to do with our body, and that both angers her and frightens her but, the one thing that she does have more control over than any other member of the committee is what we eat.
She does not control what we eat entirely. If she did, we would starve and waste away to nothing, or at the least become very ill. I have diabetes and I must eat to maintain my health. Most days I will force myself to eat if I have to because, it is my responsibility to keep this body and this soul together for as long as it takes us to learn what we are here to learn and to accomplish our purpose in this life.
I have noticed her anger and rebellion when someone comments on what we eat. People will joke about what we eat, will offer opinions or advise, will criticize and ridicule, or take offence when we do not eat what they have spent the time and effort to cook. I appreciate the love that others show by making food to feed others, including us. But, no one gets to decide what she puts into her mouth, what she eats. She will not eat just to please anyone. She will not eat to be polite. It is the only control that she has over her body and she will not relinquish it. She is very stubborn, that is one of her strengths.
I am glad that she has strength of her own…it will help in the work we have ahead of us.